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Kids and Homework

June 14, 2013

   What do you do if your little son or daughter fights you every night over homework? I have been asked this question many times over. The answer is simple but takes work and a lot of patience.

   Typically parents remind their kid a few times, “Johnny, don’t forget that spelling homework.” The child may respond with: “Okay. I don’t want to. No.” At this point the parent responds with: “Yes you will. You will do it right now.” This leads to a lot of yelling, crying, etc. This can all be avoided.

    I recommend reminding your child about their homework no more than three times. The first two times simply remind them, “Johnny, remember that homework.” That’s it! Say no more at that point. The kid knows about the homework. And most kids will get to it when they get to it.

   The last time or third time you remind them add this: “Johnny, I’m not going to remind you again about your homework. Just remember that you will have to explain to your teacher tomorrow about why the work is not done.” That is it. Say no more about the work. I can almost guarantee you that little johnny will do that work. But as angry as little johnny can make you feel as a parent don’t give in to the temptation to yell and scream. And never ever hit a child. 

   This is all well and good on paper but it will take a lot of time and patience on you, the parent. It’s important to know that little  Johnny and you have been playing this homework thing out like it’s a play. It’s kind of hardwired into you and your child. It’s called conditioning. Be patient. Hold your temper. And be consistent. Good Luck!

      Sincerely Yours,

           Steve Malysz M.S.

            Psychotherapist 

 

    Feel free to email me with any questions at driftwoodms14@yahoo.com  

       

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